Last week, I turned 28. I don’t understand how time goes so quickly, but with each passing year I feel like you get more fun and I gain more perspective. I was reflecting on you in the last week, and I found it fitting to celebrate another year by sharing a few things I’ve learned along the way. Somehow at Kamp ‘throwing nuggets’ has become one of my things. My staff mocks me for it, but it’s become a simple way to share life lessons, tips of advice and biblical wisdom. So in reflection of my 28th year, here are some ‘Rother Nuggets’ in written form in no particular order:
- Age ain’t nothin’ but a thing. If you think and say you’re old, then you are. If you simply live life and don’t worry about your age, you’ll never be old.
- Life’s way more fun and much easier when you live open-handed with it rather than fists clenched tight.
- Enjoy the metabolism of youth! Something changes inside of you between 21 and 26.
- Be someone who tries new things. Life’s an adventure; don’t live like it’s boring.
- You’re capable of far more than you think. Believe in yourself.
- Pick up the phone and call. Better yet, get in your car and go. Texts are fine, but there’s nothing that can replace real conversation and authentic relationships.
- I’m 28, living in Branson (the Mecca of the Elderly), single and working a second job at Chick-fil-A. What is my life?! Never in a million years would I have guessed this is where I’d be and what I’d be doing. It’s far better.
- Live purposefully. Every day. Every moment.
- Refuse to waste your life. There’s nothing more freeing than this. Nothing.
- Challenge yourself. Get out of your comfort zone. I’ve been more humbled through my hot yoga/barre classes and having 20-year-olds giving me direction at Chick-fil-A this year than maybe ever. It’s a really healthy place to live.
- You don’t need as much sleep as you think. But remember, being disciplined in the morning starts by being disciplined at night.
- You have the ability to make people’s day every time you interact with someone. Choose joy. Choose to encourage. Smile. It’s always worth it.
- Bust your rear now to instill financial disciplines. Get out of debt. Live below your means. Don’t buy stupid stuff. Save so you can go on adventures. Give…none of it’s yours anyway.
- Whether they have something to offer you or not, people matter. Look every one in the eye, show them dignity and be kind.
- Living life with 1000s of people in your life stage isn’t real life. Enjoy college while it lasts, but be ready to fight for community. And know it’s worth fighting for. We weren’t built to go at it alone.
- Friends come in all types. Surround yourself with people different than yourself. People who make you better. Forget stereotypes and just do life well with the people God puts in your path. Married, single, younger, older. It doesn’t matter. Don’t let life stage dictate friendship.
- There are few things more attractive than a strong work ethic. Work hard. Do your best.
- Feelings change often. Don’t rely on them solely. Anchor yourself in truth.
- Opportunity is everywhere. Open your eyes and stop sulking. Make the most of what’s in front of you.
- Don’t run from questions. Ask yourself hard ones. Surround yourself with people who push you to wrestle by asking them. Who am I? What am I good at? What are my weaknesses? What do I believe and why? Is what I’m spending my time on worth it?
- Show up. Being present matters. Have integrity and be a person of your word.
- Laugh. A lot. With others and at yourself.
As I was writing these, I couldn’t stop thinking about how I longed for these not to just be bullet points on a page, but pillars my life is built around. Honestly, praying that my heart would be centered in Jesus and that the overflow of how I live would reflect that. It’s been a good 27 years…looking forward to the 28th and all I will learn!
28 going on…….,
Rother the nugget thrower (hypothetically and now literally!)